How would you feel if you receive the bad news from your doctor saying that you have cancer? No matter how rampant cases of cancer or a number of people are diagnosed to have cancer, it is still extremely devastating especially if it is you, your family member or a dear friend. Although that is an expected emotional response during the initial diagnoses, anger is very common in patients who have relapses. These patients have been increasingly frustrated going through the cycle of diagnoses and treatments over and over again.
So, how do we handle anger issues as a support person to them? Sometimes because of the heaviness of the situation, it is unavoidable as well that these patients displace their anger to the people around them such as the doctors, nurses, and caregivers. The initial step in taking control of anger and negative emotions towards this difficult situation is by accepting and recognizing the emotion. By this, we do not mean accepting the disease but more of being aware of our reactions and responses towards circumstances.
Finding a way to express anger is also helpful.
You must have an outlet to vent your emotions, talk about your feelings. Look for a confidante such as a friend, a colleague or people who had been diagnosed with cancer or cancer survivors who can truly understand what you are going through. People who can provide support and understanding in this difficult times. Sometimes people don’t need immediate solutions to their problems but having someone who could listen to their aches and pains can lessen the baggage already.
Divert your anger not on people but activities.
Pick productive hobbies such as doing your favorite exercise, go out with friends. However, some cancer patients especially those who are already undergoing treatments may lack the energy to do some activities. Chemotherapy, for example, have a lot of side effects that may drain energy, may cause a lack of appetite and even the interest in doing leisure. It is important that we remind these patients to be optimistic about their recovery and give them a light of hope.
Undergo counseling and therapy.
When things get tough and out of hand, getting help from licensed professionals such as psychologists and psychiatrists can be helpful. Not only will they provide the necessary information about the nature of cancer but also on how to handle emotional outbursts and disappointments that patients may encounter on their road to recovery. They have the knowledge and experience when it comes to this matter. BetterHelp.com provided online therapy and patients with cancer can benefit from talking to one of their therapists or counselors.
The thought processes of the patients with cancer are as complicated as the nature of their disease. Not only they suffer from the physical ill effects of cancer but its impact on their mental state which can even be worsened by medication side effects. It is like a roller coaster of guilt, blame, and anger on their end. Therefore, it is vital that caregivers extend their patience and understanding.